Parts of Ephesians 3, 4 & 5....For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom his whole family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge--that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
As a prisoner for the Lord, then I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit--just as you were called to one hope when you were called--one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all. .... In your anger do not sin.... Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Be imitators of God, therefore as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God..... For you were once darkness but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light...
What should I be doing? How should I behave when trials come? I should be completely humble. Completely gentle. I should be patient. I should be bearing with everyone in love. I should be jumping hurdles to keep the unity through the bond of peace. There is no room for selfishness here. I can be angry, but need to keep from sinning. Its not a sin to be angry; but being angry so easily lends itself to sinning. Even if I'm angry it is not okay to run my mouth saying all the things that would feel so good (temporarily) to say. It's not okay to be bitter. Its not okay to have my heart stuck in fight mode. Be kind. Be compassionate. Imitate my God. Don't grieve the Holy Spirit. I am not a slave to my sin or anyone else's sin. I am a willing and happy slave to my Father. I have the freedom to choose to live as what I am; a child of the light.
He has shown you, oh man, what is good. And what does the Lord requires of you? To act justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God. (Micah 6:8)
My reaction may not be normal. It may not seem right to someone that doesn't intimately know the desire to ultimately please God (even if it would feel so good (but only in the temporary) to disobey real quick and ask forgiveness later). At the end of the day I am a child of God and that is my salvation. That is how I will sleep at night. That is how I can escape what the world tells me I must do in this situation. I will forgive and I will walk humbly with my God, even if my heart is broken. I will live a life of love.